Set the Goal Sunday: What comes after Graduation?

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In a week, I will be a college graduate. After 16 years, homework is over unless I take classes in the future, which there are some travel writing and copyediting/indexing courses I’m looking at. I’m ready to focus on my writing and a couple part time jobs until I find work full-time instead of balancing class, work, and homework. I want to be able to put 100% of my life into what I love, and I’m hoping that will be an achievable goal now that school is almost over.

In the last four months, I’ve really thrown myself in to trying to accomplish as many goals as possible as part of my capstone project. I was using Chasing Dream Balloons as my big final project for my major, expanding my audience through various social medias, and creating a writing schedule. Keeping the schedule and seeing people actually view my site was a goal in itself, but I did other stuff too. I went to my thirteenth country, and got to sleep in the desert, ride a camel, explore Crusader ruins, float in the Dead Sea, experience a Turkish bath, and walk through Petra. I also made an amazing connection with my host family, and I’ve been sold on trying to do a form of a homestay in my future travels.

I got pretty good at making applesauce, and attempted snowboarding. I’ve sung karaoke twice now, and went to a concert. I also got a job in my field, and even though it’s part-time, it’s still something I am excited about. Some of my bigger goals won’t be accomplished until next week when I walk across that stage on Saturday and graduate with a BS in Professional Writing, hopefully with a summa cum laude honors.

But in a week, some of my goals are going to have to get bigger. I worry that within a year, I still won’t have a full-time job and I’m going to do everything possible to make that happen. I’m worried that even if I do get a full-time job, it won’t be in travel writing, and it will prevent me from doing my true passion: traveling. I know a lot of jobs have very little time-off, making it hard for even a weekend getaway. I love Vermont, but I’m worried that living here will also narrow my possibilities of becoming a travel writer, and that I’ll have to move to a big city to see any dream happen.

I know that I am not alone with my fears and dreams, so for my final presentation, I asked the senior Professional Writing class what their fears and goals were post-graduation. Most of the fears my classmates had revolved around success in life, whether it was in their chosen field or being able to support a family. Some people are afraid of being broke and stuck in a rut, that their “grown up” plans will fall through, Another big thing that was a little more time relevant was the fear of having to go back home and living in their parents’ house. That is a big fear for me because Maine has even less of a writing industry than Vermont.

Here is a list of some of the fears and goals my classmates gave me:

Fears
  • welfare
  • being broke
  • being stuck in a rut
  • not being able to set myself up for a career in a big city later if I stay in Burlington now
  • I’m afraid I’ll never be able to commit successfully to a relationship
  • not getting a job
  • losing sight of the thing I love to do the most: writing
  • not being able to manage a family and be a writer at the same time
Goals
  • Move far, far away and try to create a life full of things I love
  • Become more confident
  • Lift “hella” weights
  • retire early in the Irish countryside
  • Be the shit– believe in what I do & who I am, and actually accomplish something
  • create a character that people can take home with them, and change and envision how they’d react to different situations
  • to write for a music festival
  • see the Hagia Sophia
  • to make someone in the world feel with my writing.
  • to teach enough to change a life
  • to change people’s perspectives of themselves & reality

By writing about my fears and dreams, I feel like I’m holding myself accountable, and, hopefully, my classmates. I’m telling the world at large what is going on in hopes of setting small goals to achieve these dreams. So how can we accomplish them?

Bloggers, bucket list writers, future grads, how can we hold ourselves accountable and make sure we get the best out of life and all the situations it throws at us; how can we believe in what we do, who we are, and actually accomplish something? Is it as simple as saying we can do this? When we’re little, we’re told, “if you set your mind to it, you can accomplish anything!” but will I be able to make my dreams a reality within a few years after graduation?

For all of you living your goals, how did you get there? Do you have words of wisdom to share with the Class of 2013?

Set the Goal Sunday: Searching for the Purpose

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Where it all began

Ever since I was little, I’ve been terrified of dying. Now I know most people are, but this went beyond normal. I’d wake up in the middle of the night, crying from nightmares, and they only got worse when my mother, Allison, was diagnosed with stage four melanoma in 2000.

On November 9, 2011, I dreamt that my mother died. It was so powerful it woke me up and I ran into my parent’s bedroom to check on her. I felt silly and went back to bed, without checking on her. The next morning I woke up and went to check on her. Her stomach was inflated, stopped forever mid breath intake, hard as stone. There was an orange line where her teeth met her lips, already showing death working its magic. Even her hair seemed to have lost its life. My crying woke my father up. I was 11, and my fear of dying only intensified. Continue reading »

Set the Goal Sunday: Laughing your Way to Positivity

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SoulPancake released two more videos for the series My Last Days, and both mention the importance of laughter.

“Dying sucks. Cancer sucks, but you make the best of it,” says Juli. Her “best” is photography. Juli has five children and stage four breast cancer. For her, photography is an escape; it’s a time when she can live in the moment instead of dreading what’s to come. In the video, she says, “I can capture moments the kids will always have.” These photos, these images are something she’s leaving behind for her kids. They can look at their memories and know she was there.

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She is so positive and inspires many patients at the hospital she goes to. Her family tries to stay busy and finds support in their small numbers. By sharing her story with SoulPancake, she is touching the lives of people all over the world. Even if they don’t contact her, she has inspired hundreds. She gives sage advice:

  • You have to be positive
  • You have to laugh every day
  • You have to show everybody you love them
  • You have to make jokes about it

Although Juli is talking about her stage four breast cancer, this advice can pertain to anything. Juli makes the most out of her life. She finds ways to stay happy.

Shane Burcaw has Spinal Muscular Atrophy and has spent his whole life relying on other people to do simple things. His muscles are slowly deteriorating, “except his penis,” he jokes. Like Juli, he faces his disease head-on and stays positive, jokes about it, because at the end of the day he knows what’s coming. “You have to laugh at yourself,” Shane says. “I’ve heard before laughing is a coping mechanism.” Is it really that easy to find a way to laugh about your life?

He keeps a blog to share his story with others called laughingatmynightmare.1000notes.com. His blog documents how his life is different because of his disability, but how he is still the same. At the time of the video he had over 170,000 followers. He’s provided his contact information for anyone to reach him and has created LAMN (Laughing at my Nightmare), INC. a non-profit for muscular dystrophy and helping people find ways to laugh at their life.

I want to know if this applies to everyone struggling with a mental/physical illnesses. In all six videos SoulPancake has released, everyone mentions at some point the importance of staying positive and laughing, but it’s hard to stay positive. Maybe that’s why I find this so inspirational. It’s hard to convince your brain to think one thing when it’s already focusing on something negative, especially for those with mental disorders.

One of my closest friends struggles with an eating disorder. Like Shane, she also has a blog. She is so honest with her readers, and has inspired many people. She talks about her outpatient treatment, and isn’t afraid to share her experience from inpatient. What she learns is applicable to many people, which is why she has such a strong following. She admits how hard it is sometimes to stay positive, but the community she has created is one that keeps her as positive as she is.  I could be wrong, but it seems like her readers inspire her to kick her habit. There are thousands of people who read her blog who have never met her but they contact her asking for advice, sharing their stories, and words of inspiration. She was the one who inspired me to create Chasing Dream Balloons. I can’t thank her enough because she keeps me going. There have been so many nights where I’ve been sad, and down on myself for one thing or another, and she is there. She has been there sharing words of wisdom from treatment, advice similar to Juli’s. Her ultimate goal is always to get me to laugh, to get me to stay positive.

I haven’t met Shane or Juli, or any of the other four people from the My Last Days series, but their stories mean a lot to me. I know I’m not the only one. For those out their reading, what is your story? How do you stay positive?

 Keep Chasing!

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